I have found far too often that I myself, as well as many of those around me, spend a lot of time worrying on how to fix something or make it better because we hate to give up. But honestly, if I think about all the energy spent trying to fix these things rather than scrapping them in the earlier stages I quickly learn of all the time wasted on something that doesn’t do anything for the life I ultimately wish to live. Time gone, that I will never be able to get back and redirect into positive potential. Why is this the case?
Experience has led me to believe that letting go, for a variety of reasons, is one of the hardest things for most people to do. Whether it’s a negative feeling about self, a bad or toxic relationship, that semi interesting idea you came up with the other day, or perhaps the items taking up space in your wardrobe that you never ever wear. For some reason it seems to be much easier to hold on than it is to let go to just about everything, ultimately creating more harm than good at the end of the day.
Interesting note, I grew up with an older sister, same parents, raised in the same household, at the same time and we couldn’t be two more different people when it comes to letting go. She’s a minimalist by every definition of the word. Her closet, impeccable. Beyond the color and style organization, you will not find one thing in there that she doesn’t use on a consistent basis. Every piece is a staple in her wardrobe. If she doesn’t wear it, it doesn’t exist. The same goes for the majority of things in her life. Her house looks like a model showroom. Car as if it’s straight off the dealership lot. A tight knit group of friends that she keeps close despite “knowing” a multitude of people. Select sound business goals and ideas, etc… There is nothing just hanging around.
Surprisingly, or NOT, her life is one of the most full lives I know because of the fact that it only holds things that she wants. No clutter. I know this might be an extreme example but the point is, all of our lives have the potential to be full in the same way if we want them to be. Your picture of full might not look as refined as hers, but the idea is arriving to a space free of all things that are potentially holding us back remains the same.
There is a saying that goes, when you free up space and time you make room for new things to come into your life. So when you are wondering why things aren’t happening, or going according to the plan you have laid out, you need to ask yourself if you have room to receive the things you want. The universe is a very powerful force in this way.
Take a water bottle for instance, once it’s full to the rim with whatever you decide to put in it, that’s it. Nothing else, good or bad, is getting in there. Therefore, how can you expect to meet a new potential significant other if you’re still pining over your ex? Or get that offer for a new job or increased role responsibilities if you’re barely keeping up with your current job? Always complaining, negative and stressed out.
If you’re out networking how do you expect potential clients or investors to get behind your ideas if you don’t believe in them yourself? Lacking self-confidence, motivation, and drive.
So how do we make sure we are filling our lives with only the things that serve our purpose and give us what we want? The key here becomes awareness. Awareness of what you let fill your day and space. How you show up to the universe. From what you have in your house or closet to ideas that fill your mind. I challenge you today to take inventory of what you currently have. Begin making a list of all of things you possess that aren’t doing you any favors. Ask yourself what you can live with and what you can live without. Going one step further, what could you potentially gain or have if the current occupied space was free.
Next, make a solid truthful commitment to let something go. If you find that you need a little support with this, take out your journal and write down what you have to gain by taking action. Repeating it out loud and/or maybe looking in the mirror (for a more dramatic effect). Perhaps you start with clearing your closet of all the “one day I'll wear this” clothes, or clearing your mind of your current self-doubt. Whatever it is, start small and as always remember to keep your journal handy for opportunities to reflect throughout your process.
The goal is to see what happens to your life as your energy is redirected and you start receiving the things that you really want.
I find it most interesting when I hear people mention how positive things randomly seem to fall into their lives or into place. You know, like meeting the right person at the right time, joining a certain group, being asked to join in on a life changing opportunity, etc. But the truth is I believe we actually invite those opportunities to take place when we have the space to welcome them into our lives.
So get to clearing and inviting in all the possibilities into your life that you deserve.